Haven't done a post for almost 2 months, oops but this is one that I see relevant to others at this moment in time.
Lately, my friends, acquaintances and people I follow on social media all seem to be upset as their relationships have finished/fallen apart. I constantly see tweets, statuses and have conversations about how shit relationships are/how upset they are now that it's over. Luckily for me I'm the happiest I've ever been and I couldn't be any more grateful for what I have but it's horrible to see people coming out of/being in shit relationships and not being able to do anything to help. Now this blog post probably won't help, it may even make some of you cry (if anyone reads it lol). But what you need to realise is that it will get better even though it may get worse at the start.
You can front it out all you want. Go out, shag about, get drunk, distract yourself with work/studying. Doing anything you can to ignore the pain you feel. But there are many times that you won't be able to block out this pain but that's okay. It's okay not to be okay. You can think you're over it, you're okay on your own but there will be some little things that happen as time passes that will rip your heart out.
So here it goes:
When you wake up in a morning and don't have the 'good morning text', that's when it hurts. When you drive past their house/road and go to pop in for a cuppa and a cuddle but realise you can't, that's when it hurts. When you find their t-shirt that you used to sleep in, that's when it hurts. When you see a video on Facebook that you know they'd love, that's when it hurts. When that song comes on that you used to belt out at the top of your lungs no matter where you were, that's when it hurts. When you go to a family meal and they're not by your side, that's when it hurts. When you realise that you've lost their family as well as them, that's when it hurts. When you pass an exam/get promoted at work and you can't share your happiness with them, that's when it hurts. When you've had a shit day and just want a cuddle but they aren't there anymore, that's when it hurts. When there's no longer 'their side of the bed', that's when it hurts. When you go to sleep on your own, that's when it hurts. When you see them happy without you, that's when it hurts. When they move on, that's when it kills you.
But..
Once you've faced all these things, you will be fine. You might feel like you've lost your right arm, you can't imagine their life without them. But there was a life before them, and there will be one after if you do sadly break up. You don't need someone to make you happy, it's a bonus that they do. Yet, there is a reason you broke up. People change, sometimes for the better, others for the worst. But these changes will impact upon the relationship.
Surround yourself with people that do make you happy. That support you and love you. And if it was meant to be, it would have been.
You will be happy, even on your own so just remember - it's not the end of the world.
Keep your head up and believe in yourself.
Until next time,
Barry x.
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Lately, my friends, acquaintances and people I follow on social media all seem to be upset as their relationships have finished/fallen apart. I constantly see tweets, statuses and have conversations about how shit relationships are/how upset they are now that it's over. Luckily for me I'm the happiest I've ever been and I couldn't be any more grateful for what I have but it's horrible to see people coming out of/being in shit relationships and not being able to do anything to help. Now this blog post probably won't help, it may even make some of you cry (if anyone reads it lol). But what you need to realise is that it will get better even though it may get worse at the start.
You can front it out all you want. Go out, shag about, get drunk, distract yourself with work/studying. Doing anything you can to ignore the pain you feel. But there are many times that you won't be able to block out this pain but that's okay. It's okay not to be okay. You can think you're over it, you're okay on your own but there will be some little things that happen as time passes that will rip your heart out.
So here it goes:
When you wake up in a morning and don't have the 'good morning text', that's when it hurts. When you drive past their house/road and go to pop in for a cuppa and a cuddle but realise you can't, that's when it hurts. When you find their t-shirt that you used to sleep in, that's when it hurts. When you see a video on Facebook that you know they'd love, that's when it hurts. When that song comes on that you used to belt out at the top of your lungs no matter where you were, that's when it hurts. When you go to a family meal and they're not by your side, that's when it hurts. When you realise that you've lost their family as well as them, that's when it hurts. When you pass an exam/get promoted at work and you can't share your happiness with them, that's when it hurts. When you've had a shit day and just want a cuddle but they aren't there anymore, that's when it hurts. When there's no longer 'their side of the bed', that's when it hurts. When you go to sleep on your own, that's when it hurts. When you see them happy without you, that's when it hurts. When they move on, that's when it kills you.
But..
Once you've faced all these things, you will be fine. You might feel like you've lost your right arm, you can't imagine their life without them. But there was a life before them, and there will be one after if you do sadly break up. You don't need someone to make you happy, it's a bonus that they do. Yet, there is a reason you broke up. People change, sometimes for the better, others for the worst. But these changes will impact upon the relationship.
Surround yourself with people that do make you happy. That support you and love you. And if it was meant to be, it would have been.
You will be happy, even on your own so just remember - it's not the end of the world.
Keep your head up and believe in yourself.
Until next time,
Barry x.
