Don't get bitter... get better.

Iya, hope you all had a mint Christmas and New Year n all that jazz. If you were lucky enough to have Christmas off - I hate you, but despite working the majority of the festive period I still had a marvy time.
It's been just over a month since my last post, if you read it you'll be pleased to know I did manage to submit my university assignments that were due. I just now have an exam at the end of the month and then my w o n d e r f u l  13,000 word dissertation and another magazine to create by May - buzzin.

Anyhow. I managed to buy my boyfriend's Christmas present - we're going away for the weekend in February with our friends Josh & Hollie and I cannot wait. Despite me being fully aware that this year is gonna be pure hell until May at least, I am pretty certain that this year is going to be the best one yet...

First things first, this year is the year I (hopefully) graduate from university!!! First and second year were mint, had a right old laugh and enjoyed spending my spare time in the uni pub, spoons and Snobs. Third year has been a big sloppy turd. The workload is completely unmanageable unless you limit yourself to 5 hours sleep a night. The word dissertation makes me wanna cry and I am certainly not ready to be crackin' on with mine. I genuinely think it would be easier to learn Polish. But p o s i t i v e  v i b e s...
I do think I'll do it, if I can make it this far I'm sure I can pull this out of thin air too and then graduate with my favs.

Second reason as to why this year will be the best one yet is because it's the year I become a fully-fledged woman. I make the transition into adulthood as I will be turning 21! This doesn't sound like a big deal to you but considering I've been trying to blag that I'm "twen-teen" rather than 20 because I can't deal with not being a teenager anymore. So 21 is like actually gotta sort my life out. But, I am excited about this god-awful-teenager-to-middle-aged-hag birthday because I will be spending it in Egypt with my better half!!

I haven't been on a proper relaxing holiday for years so I can't wait to have lazy days in the sunshine, go on a camel and push George in the pool (hehe). It is definitely motivating me to smash my university tripe out.

Third reason that this is going to be my year. I've done the stupid-ass, generic New Year's resolution that everyone tries to do every year and finally rejoined the gym. I should never of stopped going but I got comfortable in my relationship and picked Papa John's over pilates and now I look like a pot-bellied pig. But this will change!!  I'm not setting unrealistic goals of trying to lose 3 stone, I just want to lose 8 pounds and be more toned by June - this is reasonable and doable as long as I stop stuffing my face with pizza and a enough Chinese food to feed a family of 4 which me and George somehow demolish between the two of us. My family and friends reading this will shout at me for saying this but hey ho - it's my bod I will do as I please.
I feel better when I go to the gym, physically and mentally. It makes me feel so much better about my life - I do not know why but it does...

Fourth and final reason as to why this year will will be MY YEAR  is because I've promised myself (and my gyal Ash), that this year will be full of positivity because I've not got time for nails. Effort to go into detail but all I will say is...

POSITIVE PEOPLE ONLY IN 2018. 

So that's it. I think... if you've made it this far I hope you've realised that I've used gifs of RuPaul Drag Queens throughout this article so appreciate it...

I'm going to love and leave you with Alyssia Edwards's famous words...

Until next time,
Barry x.

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young dumb n broke

So it's been 6 week since my last post which means it's been 10 weeks since I had my meltdown. Since then  so much has changed in my life and I'm still trying to figure out whether some is for the better or worse...

I'm back at university, third year and all and safe to say I hate it, but I'm slowing plodding along. I've got a month and two days to create a magazine and write 3,000 words for my journalism module - eyyyyyy. After Christmas I will feel a lot more at ease as I'll have less assignments due etc. but anyway that's not what you're here to nose about.
I've cut my hours down at work whilst back at uni which has helped in the sense of being able to study and stuff but a bit pants for me as I'm skint. I'm so used to earning £180-£200 a week and now it's like £45 a week but I love my job more than ever so I can't really moan. It's just hard because Christmas is 19 days away, I've gotta finish sorting my boyfriend's present and try and sort a lil present for the rest of the family but here I am flogging 17 DVDs and 4 box-sets for the sake of £20.

I miss being able to work 40 hours a week, I miss not having to have to do university assignments and I miss having uni deadlines before Xmas. I know for a fact that even though I break up for Christmas from university tomorrow I ain't gonna stop over Christmas because I've picked up shifts at work and have so many different assignments to do, I'm going to be eating my Christmas dinner whilst planning my next layout for my magazine.

ANYWAY, so I've kinda addressed how I'm broke...

Let's address how I'm dumb. I settle for bare shit off people that I shouldn't have to. I've got friends who only speak to me once a month even though I see them a couple times a week. I've got good friends don't get me wrong, GR8K8 & Trash are ma HUNS!! yes we have our bickers n disagreements but these two will always tell me what's what so thanks B's.

Let's start with Trashy Ashy - the biggest nail I've ever met. Ash is that girl that you'll tell her not to do something - SO SHE WILL DEFINITELY DO IT, even if I told her not to jump off a bridge, just cos I told her not to do it - she would.
But my Trashy gyal needs to just remember how much of a queen she is n how much of a beaut she is. She also needs to listen to me more cos she's the most stubborn git I've ever met. LISTEN MORE TO YOUR PALS N NOT TO ASSHOLES!!!!

GR8K8 is also a hun!!! Firstly, Kate is demanding a shoutout to Nanny Marg and Bossman n the endless English brekkies we have before we take Bossman on PARKOUR!!!! K8Y KAK is a complete darl, she gives people the biggest carrots ever and will be that friend that spends more than her life savings on make-up just to ensure she looks flames. She is also the best twerker ever. She will also allow you to reminisce on your childhood with videos such as the Bear n The Lion...

Both of them really are the best listeners and pals I've had in a long time just because they're so honest n truthful n that is what I need cos I can be a pain in the ass 90% of the time.

ENOUGH ABOUT THEM.

Me being young. Being young is a weird thing to talk about but I think it's the hardest thing I struggle with lmao. Me and Trash and Kate are all the same age but me n Kate chose uni whereas Ash chose to work. It kills me when Ash gets paid bare money a month and I just about get £300 a month now cos I've had to drop my hours.

My biggest regret in life is going to uni. Purely because I hate how skint I am. I know I could get a mega good job at the end of it but it's such a struggle and I'm so shit at this uni life like idk even if I'm gonna pass this year.

Despite all my negativity I really am super lucky to have such an amazing family and friends by my side. And also, my fave human ever...

George is my absolute rock. He will settle for my shitty rants, my low-self esteem and me forever saying I don't deserve him. I will moan to him 75% of the time about bare different problems that haven't even got anything to do with him. I owe him my life, my heart and loyalty because this past year he has kept me sane. I can't wait till I finish university so I can actually devote time to him and my pals and family.

So despite being young, dumb and broke I'm still happy and blessed and in love with my life. 

My next post will be my 2017 summary. 

Until next time, Barry. x

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If you can't love yourself, how the hell are you gonna love somebody else?

So yesterday officially marked a month since my "I'm Sorry" post. The post which I opened up and put every single feeling, emotion and deepest darkest secrets into. And in that post I made a promise, to myself and to those who read it, and that promise was that going to "be happier, sort all my insecurities, feelings and issues out so that I can focus on making myself happy again." by today. So I suppose that this is a little update.

It's been a month since I put my heart on the line and proudly I can say - I am feeling a lot better. The reason as to why is because this past month I've learnt the most valuable lesson that I've ever learnt in the whole of my life, and the lesson I've learnt is that I need to..

"Embrace the glorious mess that you are and to fall in love with yourself is the first secret of happiness."

I'm not gonna make out that I'm 100% back to my normal self but this past month I've realised that I am my own worst enemy. I am the one who believes that "I can't do...", "I'm not good enough to do...", "I'm useless" etc. Nobody has ever told me that I'm not capable of achieving my goals, nobody has told me that I'm not good enough, nobody has ever told me that I'm useless, apart from myself. That little voice in my head is telling me all those things, constantly. However, I've managed to cut friends off over the past how many years, I've managed to ignore people's shit that they try and tell me about myself and now I've finally learnt to ignore that little voice in my head. 

I am strong. I am beautiful (in my own weird way). I am going to graduate from university. I am going to make my family proud. I am gonna live the best life (quote from Abbie Bell, queen). 
I suppose I'm trying to say that I've realised how important the good things in life are compared to the negatives. I mean lets make a list:
Positives:

1. I've got the best family ever.
2. I'm taking control of my degree. I've made the choices that will help me pursue the career I want to, yes it's going to be a struggle n 'alf but I'm more than capable of doing it.
3. I've realised who my real friends are. I don't expect texts 24/7 or every single day I just want to have supportive people around me. Not people that are gonna use my bad days as gossip or not even text me back when I say I need them. But luckily for me, I'm the one with that power so if you're not there for me then give it a week and if we haven't spoken then realise that I'm done with you. You aren't aiding my recovery - you're hindering it.
4. My boyfriend is an absolute king. Nothing else needs to be said. He's the best partner in crime I could ever ask for.

Negatives:

1. I'm on anti-depressants. I've started to ween myself off them as I feel like I don't need them anymore but this is such a huge test for me. I'm determined to overcome this.
2. I feel like a bad friend because I'm very much focused on making myself better.

So as you can see I've got half as many negatives than positives - which is wonderful. I suppose I've realised that I am happy in myself. I've realised what I'm worth and what I'm capable of.

In summary. Compared to this time last month I'm in a better place. Let's hope that in a month's time I'll be in another better place. In the words of RuPaul...

All the love. Barry. 

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Fix up look sharp.

So, those of you who read my previous post, 871 of you to be exact, this is a follow up/an update as to how I've been getting on/doiing - not that I expect any of you to care but you're all clearly nosy gits so...

Obviously admitting to myself my true feelings was very difficult and hard for me to do but since I've taken that step I've realised a lot. Especially who cares and who doesn't...


I am not a liar, I am not a bullshitter, I am very much honest and upfront whether I've hurt you, made your day or been a bitch - I will do what I see fit. Sadly I'm very strong minded and there's no changing the way I feel but luckily I am surrounded by a sea of people who have learnt to love and tolerate me for who I am.

My main G, and the one who I owe the rest of my life to is 'yo boy George' as he calls himself. And he really is the MVP in my life - no disrepek to mom, dad, friends etc. but this boy hears it ALL and makes me the cups of tea, gives me cuddles etc. until he knows I feel better - don't get me wrong Labbie you did this last Wednesday but I adore ya still.
This man provides me with endless amounts of happiness, joy and pride and I couldn't ask for a better other half. I owe him everything.
I know I'm a mess at the moment, I know I'm causing him - and all my other valued friends/family in my life - a lot of stress/worry but I promise I will get better. I am getting better thank you to these people.

George xxxxx

I've learn that the problems we face have to be dealt with head on and tackled. We can't just run away. Like I tried to with my job because I got too stressed. However, I'm so blessed to have such a darling of a manager who is there for me every step of the way.

Since my last post I've realised which friends adore me as much as I adore them as well as who cares and who doesn't.

I'm giving my family the biggest shoutout ever and also to my wonderful K8 Kak, Trashleigh, Stan, Labbie, Anna, Ellis, Cal, Jase and co. - you know who you are and I adore you all so much for being my huns.

Just know I'm getting there and it's all because of you.

Positive vibes, jibes and love - Barry x.

Katie x

Labbie, Beth, Meg x

Beth & Matt x 

Anna Banana xxxxxx

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