2017//Smile you filthy animals.

Another door closes, another one opens, blah blah blah. "New year, new me!!!" all that crap can just get in the bin. I don't see why on January 1st people set themselves stupid, unachievable goals that are just going to put a grey cloud over their day if they don't manage to achieve it. I say this yet look at my last post, oops I'm a hypocrite.
Anyway, what I've decided to do is to make a little happy, go-to post for myself/others for when they're down to pick themselves back up. So if you're upset because you've argued with bae or you had a bad day at work then remember these little things.

1. Look around you. 
Last year I made more mistakes that a drunken 18 year old in Magaluf, I was an absolute state but somehow I've still got a strong group of friends & family around me to help keep me grounded and support me. If they really love you they'll stand by you through everything (unless you murder someone but c'mon you can't expect them to back you if they know you're a murderer) and if they don't, well, you know they weren't really your friends. It's all about "leave no man behind".

2. 'Will it matter in 6 months time?'
Now this policy is something I apply to almost every single problem I get myself into as we are the most spoilt, third-world problem filled generation to ever walk the earth, meaning that we are infamous for blowing everything out of proportion. For example when Kim K lost her earring:
The girl acted like she'd lost her limb but, do you think she still cries about this diamond earring? Probably not no, because it doesn't matter. So if you're sitting here after being at work and someone's spoke to you like dirt just remember, in 6 days, 6 months, 6 years etc. it really won't matter. If you 'only got a 2:1' on an assignment then don't beat yourself up, let this motivate you to improve on the next one. The cup is always half full, not half empty.

3. The grass will be green if you water it.
Everyone's heard the saying 'the grass is always greener on the other side' but it really isn't, it's green if you water it. What I mean by this is that if you wake up and your initial thought is 'today is gonna be a bad day' then odd's are, it will be. It's a placebo effect. If you're waiting for something to go wrong then you will find fault in everything. If you wake up and tell yourself that you're gonna have a good day, 90% of the time, you do. And that is due to the positive outlook you have from the start of the day. Obviously you can't apply this to everything but just give it a go, I promise you, you'll feel better.

4. A cup of tea and a cuddle are the best healers.
I've lost count of how many times I've come home hysterical over stupid things (things that I can't even remember because point 2...) but once I've sat down and had a cup of tea and a rant with my Mom/Dids/WW etc. I'm fine. I'm a stickler for winding myself up because if something irritates/upsets me I keep thinking about it - stop. Have a cuppa, have a rant, put it in a box and burn it - it really won't matter in 6 months time, just like the little thing you're thinking about now as you read this - PUT IT IN THE BIN.

5. Your happiness is the most important.
Being the way I am, and the way I've been raised, I will always put other people before myself and looking back, I need to stop doing it as much. This sounds super bad but some people will abuse your selflessness if they know they can. Start doing the things you want to do and I promise you, you'll feel 10000x better for it. I mean don't get me wrong, don't turn into a selfish arsehole but if you don't wanna do something/do wanna do something (as long as it isn't murder) then...
If you don't wanna do something but do it just to please people then you won't enjoy it (kinda relates to point 3) so don't waste your time.

Now these 5 things aren't massive, unrealistic things to remember, they're simple (like me lol) and they might seem too simple but I can promise you now. I'm in the best place I have been for a long, long time. Last year was full of peaks and troughs, I wasted time with the wrong people which made me super ill and unhappy, looking back I was a nail to be fair. But, once I removed the negativity and the arseholes everything gradually improved. Some people wait to see you fail and they're waiting to take your place/happiness - remove them and remember these 5 little things and tell me in a month that you aren't 10x happier.

I hope you all had a lovely Christmas and New Year, I certainly did. And I also hope you enjoyed this well over-due blogpost - big up Popsi and Momma Juels for demanding a new one.

Until next time,

Barry x.